Sometimes I’m hesitant to call myself a “millennial” but it is true 😉 I was born in December of 1986 and I’m here to say I am a millennial. But I want to transform what we believe about our identities as millennials. Kids, raised in the 80’s and 90’s outside without video games, DVD players, streaming videos, WiFi, IG Live, computers, lap tops, no email, no camera phones, no social media, nothing. That’s right, nothing.
Now we own the media world. We’ve been innovators to the max and we’ve quite literally conquered the world of technology and mastered it’s ins and outs.
But I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to live in that. You don’t have to live in the hustle.
Someone said to me the other day “remember a time when you went a whole day without taking a photo? When you didn’t have access to a video camera”
My answer was “No, I don’t.”
I am a military wife and mom of a 3 year old and 10 month old. I blog, I freelance write, I’m a social media influencer and I don’t even tackle HALF of what my blogger friends do on a daily basis and I feel constantly overstretched.
I was debating joining an online blogging class to help me develop my blog and bring in more traffic WITHOUT having to use IG, Facebook and Twitter. I told my blogger friend I’m too over stretched right now I don’t think now is the right time for me. To which she responded “I am a mother of 4, I run a business, a class, a blog, and my husband is in graduate school so I understand but you can do it. Hustle on sister.”
I left the conversation thinking to myself “WOW if she can do it (and not a military wife) then I can certainly do this”
That’s the evil voice of comparison creeping in…shut that voice down. Shut it down hard. If she can do it that doesn’t me I HAVE to do it. Repeat that to yourself. In Amy Poehler book “Yes Please” she says one thing over and over again to encourage women to support each other but NOT compare:
“Good for her. Not for me.”
Repeat that in your heads: good for her! NOT for me…and guess what? That’s okay. You don’t have to compete, you don’t have to measure up, you don’t have to do what she does. Ever.
As the day went on I thought about this all day and I came to the conclusion I don’t want to hustle hard. I want to enjoy my babies. I want to read a book at nap time and drink tea. I want to sit in the sun and praise my God. I want to write thank you letter to my family & friends for their love and support. I want to worship my God. I want to exercise my body & my soul. I want spiritual peace. I want calm. I want solitude. I want joy. I want to blog and write to encourage and come along side other women and mom’s not to hustle so hard every day to make a dollar.
No, I don’t want that at all. (but don’t hear what I’m not saying…if you want to hustle and you can do it with joy & peace I think you should do it as much as you want and can. As long as you still feel centered and balanced).
Balance, sometimes I think this is a pretend word only made for yoga and gymnastics. The illusive goal of all women. But I digress.
So here’s my point mama’s: your goal in life should be to enjoy your every day. You don’t have to take a photo. You don’t have to check Facebook, you don’t have to tweet that, you don’t have to engulf yourself in WORLD news to the point of depression. You don’t have to measure up to any other woman ever.
You were not made for that.
You were made to live and enjoy life. To inhale the joyful abundance of life right there in your living-room and exhale immense gratitude for the life you’ve been given.
It’s okay, you don’t have to check Instagram today. You don’t have to have her life.
Deep breath sister. Inhale love and exhale gratitude…meditate on that today!